Who is Really Offending You?


There is an intriguing exchange that happens in 1 Kings 18:17 between King Ahab and Elijah the prophet. After a nation-wide search for the prophet, when Ahab finally catches up with Elijah he greets him with these rather curious words, “So, is it really you, you troublemaker of Israel?” The irony is so rich you could almost choke on it! Elijah has a reputation for being an incredibly faithful prophet who represented God in a powerful way at a dark time in Israel’s history. Ahab, on the other hand, has a reputation for being a weak-willed king who was responsible for most of the idolatry which was widespread in Israel. So who was really the source of Israel’s trouble?

While the exchange between the king and the prophet is so bizarre that it is tempting to just laugh it off, there is a humbling lesson for all of us in the actions of Ahab. The truth is that each one of us will occasionally miss God’s message to us because of our sentiments regarding the messenger that God uses.

Hearing God’s voice requires much more humility and reverence of us than we often anticipate. The most poignant example of this is when the very Word of God took on flesh. Jesus spoke the very words of God, unmediated, from a human mouth. Nobody since him has ever spoken words which so perfectly communicate the mind of God, and yet he too was regarded as a “troublemaker” and the people of God rid themselves of him.

If we want to hear God’s voice and follow him, we need to make peace with the fact that God’s words will often take on human form. Our reverence and humility before God needs to drive us past our misgivings about the messenger and cause us to listen intently for the voice of the Holy Spirit speaking through human lips.

When we are confronted by people in church there are many different reasons why I could take offence at what they say to me. It could be because I don’t like what they are saying. Maybe it is the tone in which they speak. Possibly it is because my relationship with the person has a checkered history. It could simply be that their personality clashes with mine! These are all trivial things but they can have massive implications if we dismiss the person as a “trouble maker” and miss the voice of God speaking through them.

Sometimes God will even test how much we reverence his words to us by speaking through a messenger which requires the most humility to listen to. By rejecting the words of God’s appointed messenger (whoever they be) you can inadvertently reject God’s purposes for your life and even invoke his judgement! (Mat 10:14,15)

When God speaks words which are difficult to hear it is only too easy to direct our hurt and pain at the person standing in front of us. It is in these moments that we need to pause and reflect on this question – Who is really offending me? Are we perhaps misdirecting our resentment toward the person when our issue is really with God?

One of the most vital skills for a follower of Christ is to learn to discern the voice of God when it is “clothed in flesh”. Unfortunately we instinctively ask the wrong questions in these situations such as:

  • Do I agree with what this person is saying?
  • How does what they are saying make me feel?

But if listening to God and obeying his voice are my primary concerns then these questions are unimportant and can distract me from the real issue. The better questions to be asking are:

  • Is God speaking to me?
  • Is there any truth in what this person is saying?

When going through this process I often feel very conflicted. If I take the time to listen, I may feel a resonance with the Spirit within me saying, “Yes, it’s true”. At the very same time my heart and my mind can be screaming, “No! Don’t listen to them!” Sometimes I feel such a flood of emotions that I can’t even discern the Spirit’s voice. At times like these I find it helpful to take the word which I am weighing up to trusted spiritual leaders and ask for their help in discerning what is true. Ultimately what will determine how I respond is how much I reverence God and how much I am willing to humble myself before him.

God has ordained that your spiritual family be the litmus test for how you truly regard Him. This is true in many areas of our lives. Here are some examples: the degree to which you love your brothers is the true measure of how much you love God (Mat 25:40, 1 John 4:20). The degree to which you honour human authorities reflects how highly you regard God’s authority (Rom 13:1). The degree to which you forgive others reflects how much you appreciate what God has forgiven you of (Eph 4:32, Luke 7:47).

Ultimately, all of our efforts to discern God’s voice when it comes clothed in human frailties will be richly rewarded by God because we demonstrate how eager we are to respond to his voice. Sometimes the words of God will cut us deeply but it helps us to remember that it is the very same words of God which will truly set us free.


Luke is a follower of Christ, a leader in Joshua Generation Church, a husband of one wife – Zandi and a writer when he gets the time. He was a passionate school teacher for 6 years, but now takes care of God’s kids full time.

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