As a woman, I know that most girls dream from a young age about meeting Mr Right, being pursued with hundreds of flowers, chocolates etc., and then being the lucky recipient of a very romantic and surprising proposal.

I am lucky enough to be one of those girls who can tick all of those things off the list – when my husband pursued me, he did it all.

‘The one thing I can’t say, though, is that I am placed first in my husband’s life…and I couldn’t be happier about that fact.

This may come as a shock to most people reading this, as the world, media and society proclaim to us on a daily basis how a marriage should work, what it should be like and definitely things like: “…if he really loves you, then you’ll be the most important to him forever…”

Now, I have to disagree. I love, adore and admire my husband so much! He is the love of my life, he adores me, he believes in me, he prays for me, he supports me, he encourages me to live out my dreams, but he knows that I can’t be the most important to him.

I married a man whose heart’s desire is to honour God in all he does, which automatically means that God will forever be his first love.

The reason for this is that he loves God more than he loves me! And that is the one thing I will never expect or want to change in our marriage.

I married a man whose heart’s desire is to honour God in all he does, which automatically means that God will forever be his first love.

Don’t get me wrong, in NO way has my husband ever neglected me or chosen other people above me (not even our beautiful daughter). I know my husband will go to the ends of the earth for me, but still…God will always be his most important one.

We live in a world where we are selfishly indoctrinated to believe that a healthy marriage is one where both spouses make the other their most important and THEN God gets added to the picture, when in actual fact the Word of God so clearly stipulates that God is supposed to be our “first love”, and then we get added to the picture.

I can never expect my husband to fulfill in my heart what only God can

I can never expect my husband to fulfill in my heart what only God can, just as I can never expect God to bless our relationship if we selfishly place Him as “second most important” in our lives and marriage.

I love God, I love the fact that He gave me such a noble, loving husband, and I adore the fact that my husband places our Living King above me in our marriage. It’s because of this truth that I have peace that God will bless our marriage.

“In everything you do, put God first, and He will crown your efforts with success.” (Proverbs 3:6, TLB)