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Just One Little Kiss

 

When I was just 14 years old I heard a girl in her 20’s speak of her decision to save her first kiss for marriage. She had made this decision out of a deep love for her Heavenly Father and a desire to put ‘God-honouring purity’ first, no matter the cost. Her words inspired me to make a commitment to God myself that day, I wouldn’t (with God’s enabling) kiss anyone until my own wedding day. Admittedly, to most I shared it with, this sounded like a seemingly impossible decision . “What if the man you want to date or marry doesn’t agree with you?”, friends would ask me. I knew this was a real possibility, but I also knew the decision I’d made was the right one for me. The truth God had etched into my heart was this: “the man that I have for you will respect this promise you’ve made”.

Near the end of my Grade 12 year I met Trevor and soon after that we began to date. On the day that he asked me ‘to be his girlfriend’, I told him about my ‘no kissing’ decision.

He was taken back at first and didn’t fully understand why I’d make such an extreme choice…but he chose that day to respect the promise I had made regardless of how he felt about it.

A year into our relationship Trevor told me that the decision he’d made that day to respect my conviction and leave kissing out of the equation was a massive testimony of what God was doing in his life. He never thought that he would be able to be in a relationship without kissing the girl he was so crazy about and he was so thankful that God was enabling him, and showing him the ‘impossible made possible’. My choice, my testimony, was fast becoming our choice and our testimony.

He was taken back at first and didn’t fully understand why I’d make such an extreme choice…but he chose that day to respect the promise I had made regardless of how he felt about it.

Our decision was (in retrospect) a real ‘purity-protecting God-send’ throughout our rather lengthy 3 year relationship. Now married for just a few months we are seeing how God designed kissing to be a key that opens the door to so much more, and are once again so grateful that God gave us the strength not to open any of those doors before His appointed time.

We weren’t perfect during our relationship and there are lessons we learnt along the way, like these:

  • Being alone with someone you’re crazy about can be very challenging, limits will be challenged and often unfortunately followed by conviction and repentance.
  • Accountability to a married couple, such as community leaders or elders, is extremely important –their insight and wisdom can be ‘life saving’.
  • Living in the light and allowing others you trust to speak into your relationship and lives as singles and as a couple is vitally important.

Trevor and Esther on their wedding day, January 2016.

Our wedding day was not only a special day because it marked the day that we entered into covenant with each other and God but also the day of our very first kiss- a gift we got to give not only one another but our God too. We are so grateful for His salvation and mercy poured out over our lives and marriage.

We hope that our testimony can be an encouragement to others, we are not under law, but under His glorious grace . He enables us to lay aside the ‘good enough’ and choose the best, for His glory and our good. Thank You Jesus.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Esther is a youth leader who is involved with worship ministry at Joshua Generation Church. She has been married to Trevor since January 2016 and is loving the adventure God has them on as newlyweds.

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